Taking a break for awhile...(warning: long and sad)

[bikerchick68]

Do you think our trip to the BVIs is a bad idea?

I also am sure that Dad wouldn't want me to miss out on it grieving for him.

Thanks for your help, wishes, and kindness....

Emily

Emily... I think this trip could be very good if you allow it to be... give yourself permission to smile and feel joy during this time. It in no way diminishes your grief or sense of loss for your father... finding a moment of joy doesn't mean the pain is magically gone.

also I wanted to mention that it's OK and healthy to tell people what you need of them... I don't know Barry but if he is like most people he may feel the need to try to "fix it" for you... and this is natural. He may be feeling the need to find something to say or do to ease your pain... and you may just need to vent and have him listen without offering any words. If you find yourself in that position just ask for what you need. "I need to vent, can you please just let me without saying anything?" If you need to be held while you cry... ask... this is not something most people deal with daily and many are at a loss what to do to help. The one thing I know for sure is that there IS nothing that can fix it... Try to be gentle with yourself... everything you feel, from anger, to sorrow, to joy is valid... hugs.