Hi Emily.
I've just read your post about whether you should holiday or not. Unless I have it wrong, I read that even though you (& your husband) would still feel grief, the change would be beneficial. Unfortunately it is not going to be the holiday you wished for when you first booked it. Your accident, then your dad's sad demise...but if your heart tells you to go, you should go. You don't know what you could gain from it if you remain at home. It may bring it's own form of healing in a way you could not have forseen.
Still thinking of you & sending you healing love,
Yasmin.