yes, to both questions -- you are sitting on your saddle wrong, and you need a new saddle. sorry to contradict DH, but he is dead wrong -- you do not sit so that your weight goes on your pubic bones. that is a sure-fire way to hurt yourself. you might need to sit further forward, as he suggests, but your weight should go squarely on your sit-bones, not on the soft tissue, and not on the pubic bones. normally, saddles are designed so that the widest part is wide enough to accommodate your sit-bones & properly support. your sit-bones should not be hanging off the side of the saddle. sounds like this saddle is not working.