Moral support

[e.e.cummings]

deeiamond, I had the exact same thought about the 'girly' thing - I cannot imagine my friend slugging away on a long cycle journey (or even a short one), and maybe she thinks I am 'butch' for doing it, which I know she will never say to my face. But you know what, that's okay, I appreciate our differences. She was in a dance recital and I was very supportive of her - would I do it - no, I have two left feet. But we don't have to have the exact same interests to be friends in my book.

[deeaimond]

deeiamond, I had the exact same thought about the 'girly' thing - I cannot imagine my friend slugging away on a long cycle journey (or even a short one), and maybe she thinks I am 'butch' for doing it, which I know she will never say to my face. But you know what, that's okay, I appreciate our differences. She was in a dance recital and I was very supportive of her - would I do it - no, I have two left feet. But we don't have to have the exact same interests to be friends in my book.

yup! I actually don't have any female friends who cycle, none i met through cycling, none of my existing friends will even ride and consider me crazy. but they're still really good friends Even if your friend can't bring herself to encourage you, you should keep it up and one day she might reciprocate, but even if she does not, at least you know u always let her know you were encouraging her! there are many other things to talk about anyways.

hope u have a good day/night wherever u are. i'm off to work now, gonna extend my commute today from 2.5km to 10km. in the morning sun! aiee... but i need to lose the 9lbs.

cheers!!

[Crankin]

Well, one of my non cycling friends appreciates what I do and will ask about stuff, but the other, ah, she acts pretty much the same way as your friend, e.e. When I was a gym rat, it was "OK," that was what women do... when son and DH began riding that was OK, too.
The best way to explain it is that on Labor Day, I had a party. This friend spent about a half hour, cornering our cycling friends and asking really specific questions about the ins and outs of what they did on their cycling tour, how it's run, etc. She even was asking about a trip the 4 of us did a couple of years ago! She never asked me any of these things, or I have told her some of this stuff and she acted like she knew nothing about it. I have given up trying to talk about cycling with these people. On the other hand, I have "converted" another of our mutual friends from this group. She is addicted! She'll never ride the amount that we do, since her spouse does not like it that much, but for someone who said she would never ride over 15 miles or clip in, she's doing both.
My DH constantly says, "I don't know what we would do if we hadn't found ___ and ___" (our cycling friends).

[tulip]

You can't make people be interested in stuff. You cannot control what they do and say. You can only control your own actions, reactions and responses. So focus on that and I bet it won't be so frustrating for you.