Please respect my individuality.

[lph]

Um. I hadn't caught this before. I think I'lll just say that no, no-one should be taunted for something like that, even though they wouldn't try it themselves.

But truthfully I think some posters think that you are a forum troll, for posting about an unusual and potentially dangerous activity. Please remember that we do have our share of forum trolls that come and stir up trouble from time to time, so many of us are wary of newcomers that seem different.

I think you will find that once you have introduced yourself and maybe clarified a little bit why you choose to ride the way you do, people wil be very welcoming. Not all subjects are equally popular here (can we say "earbuds", people? ) but on the whole TE is very supportive of all genuine cyclists. I think your passion for riding fast sounds great.

[Mr. Bloom]

Hmmm...unless the admins have deleted them...I'm not seeing anything offensive.

Have you been getting snarky and unsolicited PMs about the issue? If so, I'd encourage you to post them for all to see...I'd hate to see PM attacks for something that could be discussed in the forum

[crazycanuck]

Umm Madkate-Shootingstar wasn't attacking your individuality when she remembered who you were in your post in the health section...

Get over it! Someone remembered that you do something different. ooooooo...

[Zen]

You should also remember that you are reading these posts with the voice in your head while the one doing the posting is hearing them with the voice in her head.

Intonation and nuance are lost in the written word. Have some tea.

[OakLeaf]

What lph said - all of it. I haven't seen any taunting either, and AFAIK I've read all the threads where this has been raised.

But yeah, I have seen disrespect, and at the risk of biting on a troll, I'll respond to that as well. There's a phenomenon I see more often on the motorcycle boards, but I think it's in play here, as well as on the earbud threads. I consider the relationships I form on this board to be real relationships and I care about the people here. So if the first or second thing I learn about someone is that she has a death wish (and likes to irritate motorists in a way that might someday make me the victim of road rage), I'm not going to go out of my way to get attached to her.

I think we've all done our share of really crazy stuff when we were young, so it's not "judging." It's just protecting ourselves emotionally against the big crash that you're inviting for yourself. On the chance that you hadn't thought about how dangerous it is to motorpace with any inexperienced driver anywhere, let alone on public roads in rush hour traffic, we pointed that out to you. Since you've chosen to ignore that advice, this is going to sound cold, but I'd rather that you be a stranger than a friend to me when you go under the wheels of that SUV.

[Mad Kate]

What lph said - all of it. I haven't seen any taunting either, and AFAIK I've read all the threads where this has been raised.

But yeah, I have seen disrespect, and at the risk of biting on a troll, I'll respond to that as well. There's a phenomenon I see more often on the motorcycle boards, but I think it's in play here, as well as on the earbud threads. I consider the relationships I form on this board to be real relationships and I care about the people here. So if the first or second thing I learn about someone is that she has a death wish (and likes to irritate motorists in a way that might someday make me the victim of road rage), I'm not going to go out of my way to get attached to her.

I think we've all done our share of really crazy stuff when we were young, so it's not "judging." It's just protecting ourselves emotionally against the big crash that you're inviting for yourself. On the chance that you hadn't thought about how dangerous it is to motorpace with any inexperienced driver anywhere, let alone on public roads in rush hour traffic, we pointed that out to you. Since you've chosen to ignore that advice, this is going to sound cold, but I'd rather that you be a stranger than a friend to me when you go under the wheels of that SUV.

Your point is well taken, but I feel there is a misunderstanding here. I only attempt this chase with my partner, Yin. I will never try it with just any motorist. Plus, it’s on a rural road. Besides, usually there is at least a 50 feet gap, so I guess I used a wrong word, as it’s more of a chase than motor pacing.

[OakLeaf]

Okay - fair enough. <olive branch>

[jobob]

"taunted"? I didn't read your posts originally (I pass over a lot of posts nowadays), so I looked up all the threads that you've contributed to and I've seen nothing that would qualify to me as "taunting". Legitimate concerns over your motorpacing hobby, yes, but taunting, notsomuch.

Your first post to this forum was a description of your hobby, prefaced with the following:

Is my behavior based on pure determination or is it a obsession?

Many thanks ahead of time for your genuine answers.

Followed by this:

This might be a bit silly, as I enjoy trying to keep up with Yin while she drives her car. This is the best option, especially since I love cycling and she loves driving. Therefore, every time we have an outing, she would drive and I would ride.

People think that it is silly of me to desperately try to race or keep up with Yin’s car, while I am on a road bicycle, but I guess that we all have a child side to things. Especially when the field of estate law can be quite stressful, so by setting a mental goal that keeping up with Yin is a compulsion, I push myself riding as hard as possible to unwind from work.

You've brought this matter up in a few other threads.

What are you looking for? Validation? Praise?

People who took the time to respond brought up legitimate concerns. Others perhaps chose to remain silent because they didn't have anything constructive to add. I certainly wouldn't have responded. My philosophy is, you're an adult and can make your own choices, and so long as you don't disrupt others' lives, go for it (I'd use the phrase "knock yourself out" but maybe that wouldn't be a good choice here )

Anyhow, welcome to TE.

[shootingstar]

I think we've all done our share of really crazy stuff when we were young, so it's not "judging." It's just protecting ourselves emotionally against the big crash that you're inviting for yourself. On the chance that you hadn't thought about how dangerous it is to motorpace with any inexperienced driver anywhere, let alone on public roads in rush hour traffic, we pointed that out to you. Since you've chosen to ignore that advice, this is going to sound cold, but I'd rather that you be a stranger than a friend to me when you go under the wheels of that SUV.

I apologize Kate if I sounded negative to you. But like Oak, it is abit hard for myself personally to understand your method of self-training, by courting death. Yin, your partner is a human driver. She's not a robot. She also could make errors or yourself. For instance, How would you know there would never be black ice on the road in winter to cause you to fall? I've fallen twice on black ice on the road....going slowly up a hill. I've also been hit by a car as a pedestrian, so definitely I know I am not infallible/invincible and probably way more cautious cyclist than ..someone like you.

Oak is absolutely right that some women here in TE form personal face-to-face friendships and that comes from understanding more about each other in terms of personal details. I personally have met 7 women via TE forums.

I also spent considerable time and words describing my own weight, health since I believe I am low in BMI also and had my experiences with loss of periods. But unlike you, a different experience physiologically. I did give you a thoughtful response, but i wondered if I was wasting my words..to a troll.

Other than the fact you have a nice bike, had this health problem and like to car-pace via bike, that's all we know about you. Do you cycle long distances on weekends when not working?

[Biciclista]

I read a lot of your postings too, and you seemed to me to be taunting US.

"I like to draft off cars, I dare you to say something about it"

You can be as individual as you want to, but if you're hunting for approval, you're not going to get it from people who think you're being willfully reckless. I don't care if Yin is the best driver in the world, stuff happens. And to think you would put a burden like that on someone who cares about you tells us a lot about what you're like.