Relationship/trust probs...

[Cataboo]

I think there's sometimes curiousity - I know that I've occasionally explored the naughty sections on craiglist or the personals. Often with friends, just to laugh and say what the heck? I'm not looking for a relationship, definitely not a casual encounter, but just peeking.

However, I'm able to tell my bf, oh hey, I was looking on craigslist and make some joke comparing him to the pics I saw or whatever... Given that I don't have a history of lying to him, he trusts me enough to take it at face value.

You don't have that with your husband, which means that something's fundamentally wrong in the relationship. You're hesitant to have children with him because of it... So it just boils down to... do you want to try to fix this, which you can only work if you're both willing... OR should you cut your losses and stop investing so much of your time and yourself and move on with your life without him? And that's really your own choice.

I know some personals sites won't let you peek if you don't actually register and make an account. (sometimes a friend'll send me a "what do yout hink of this girl or guy?). Registering doesn't require setting up a profile, so I guess it sort of depends on what his profile says if that's an excuse for him at all.