Ok, this is against my better judgment!

I am married. If I found out my husband did this, I would ask him why. An appropriate answer is not curiosity. An appropriate answer would be what was truly going on with him. Then we would decide, between the two of us, if there was any point in pursuing our marriage. If he did not want to participate in this discussion, then it would be my decision to make and I would move on with my life. He could, perhaps, come along but he would have to actually communicate instead of doing things behind my back.

I don't know where you live but my guess is there are a lot of hookers and strippers there too...though they might be slightly cheaper and a LOT more convenient.

Integrity matters, as Salsabike said. I think we all goof up in our lives but those goof-ups are more to do with accidentally leaving your shoes in the living room. You don't accidentally sign up for a swingers website.

Oh and I also think relationships aren't a reason why people cheat. Anyone who truly wants to cheat can come up with lots of fine reasons why they should. A person who won't cheat, won't. They might end their marriage if it isn't working but they will do that before they actually betray someone.