anything worth having takes work. Lots and lots of work. We tend to think that love shouldn't be so hard, but it is, even in the most intimate of relationships. We work hard at our jobs to make money and have success, we work hard raising children in order to teach them to be honest hard working productive parts of society, shoot we even work hard at our friendships at times, we work hard with our hobbies, but then we lose all perspective when it comes to our SO's. At least I know I do at times.