Yep, my question was literal, thanks! I was raised in a very Asian family in the sense that I did what I was told and didn't question much of anything, no matter how I felt about it. I might be unhappy, but I would never express it. So as an adult, I find that I question my emotions and responses, for the most part going along with things to prevent unpleasantness.

I was unhappy ALOT in my first marriage! Now, 20 years later, I have another serious relationship, and I find myself challenged in what it takes to have a healthy relationship. Bf is a great help there, thank goodness, but it's a HECK of a lot of work