I know how you feel - traffic scares the crap out of me and I will probably never ride in "normal" traffic. I feel safer riding in the dark. It sounds nuts, but in the early morning (I head out at 5am) there is FAR less traffic and you can see and hear cars coming long before they are up on you because of the quiet and because of their headlights/my rearview mirror. I have firefly lights on my camelback and my wheel spokes, as well as nice bright headlights/tail lights. Cars give me wide berth because they see me early. It's a win win - try it!