My first marriage was so long ago, I barely consider it; I was married for a year, and I knew when to leave...there are a lot of options.
I truly am just making an observation. For example, of all of the couples we were good friends with in AZ, when my kids were little are now divorced. Back then, we used to be a little jealous of some of them. They all had more money, traveled more, none of the women worked (not that I wanted that one). But, when I look back, I think I could have predicted all but one of these. The couple that was the "perfect family," and the closest to us, divorced about 5 years ago. My friend is remarried and her ex has a steady, but this was somewhat disconcerting to my whole family. Separately, both my kids sent me an email after I told them, questioning whether we were going to get divorced.
It's just sad...