Bad husband! No nookie!

[DDH]

Indigoiis, I love that bit written by that Barry guy! I'm such an 'Elaine' it isn't funny!

Communication is something I'm REALLY working on, and it's not easy for me. This thread is really hard to read for that reason, seeing all sides and everyone has a point! How much do you cut the hubby some slack and when IS it a big enough deal to bring up to talk about it? What happens when logically you know and understand his actions, and it's not a big deal like Tuckerville posted, but if it bothers her and makes her angry, then why isn't it a BIG DEAL with caps? Do you go by situation or emotions to grade the importance to 'work it out' with your spouse and spend the energy and time to hash it out?

Hugs to all of you that are going through heartache, in such difficult times.

If you are asking this literally, then it's going to be a different answer for everyone. Everyone's interpretation of importance is different. What might be important to one won't be to another.
I always go by, is it really worth potentially causing an argument. For example, and this is just something small. My husband never pushes in the dining room chair. Use to drive me insane, and I learned to bite my lip and just walk by and push it in myself. I said something at first, many times but once I realized he just wasn't going to get it I quit trying. It just wasn't worth expending the energy it took getting aggravated, nor was it worth starting an argument over. I have learned to live with it. It still bugs me sometimes, but most of the time I go by and push it in without even realizing I'm doing it.