Bad husband! No nookie!

[Selkie]

..... Recognizing that you cannot and will not change someone is the key. Can you live with what the things you want to change or can you learn to accept them?

I didn't clearly articulate what I meant: you can't MAKE someone change. Therefore, sometimes you either have to accept the behavior or move on.

Both my husband and I have changed a good deal since we met. We have been fortunate that we've grown together and have not had any insurmountable differences. Basic respect for each other is the key and of course, trying to live by the golden rule.