Hey, just chiming in...

If you could turn the clock back and have this scene play out differently, how would you have it play out? Think it through from beginning to end, including the interaction and all of the conversation, and see what he and you might have done differently to avoid you feeling hurt.

Write it down and then read it, and think about what it is that you really wanted. Oftentimes it was not the obvious thing we thought we wanted.