I still can't think of how I feel about your DH getting the new bike. You're obviously bothered by it, so it's an issue you need to deal with.

I would first ask myself if it's really worth adding strife to my relationship. Most likely, being mad and jealous wouldn't be worth it to me, and I'd let it go (then buy myself the bike I want!--who am I kidding! ).

Is there any way you can get the frame you want?