We have a pretty successful vulvodynia program where I work.
My advice: I'm begging, PLEADING, down-on-my-knees praying, that everyone rides a saddle wide enough to support them on the ischial tuberosities. Please, please, don't be supporting yourself on the ligaments of the pelvic floor.
If anyone reading this does have vulvodynia, before you start scarfing down gabapentin like it's m+m's and before you accede to neural ablation, please see a dermatologist who specializes in vulvodynia and a physical therapist or D.O. who specializes in it.
We seem to find 2 causes: dermatological, and derangements of the coccyx/sacrum. (you can also have pain from the pelvic floor muscles going into spasm, which PT can help, but that's not vulvodynia)
If anyone tells you you are imagining the pain, or that it's just stress, or that you are creating the pain yourself to avoid a relationship problem FIND ANOTHER DOCTOR.
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