My best cycling buddy swears by Pearl Izumi shorts. They are cut wrong for me. I think cycling shorts are a bit like shoes, different brands/styles/cuts for different folk. I tried on half the store before I found the pair that fit me like a second skin. I'll bet your pair is out there, you just haven't found them yet. Checking reviews from people my basic size and shape was somewhat helpful. Hopefully you can get to a place where you can try lots of them on.

Deb