I have a neighbor who's 100 yr old grandmother lives with her. She has an affordable full time care giver that she obtained through the local council on aging. I never would have known a program like this existed...I second Tulip's suggestion to obtain professional input...and Crankin's insight to protect your own independence - particularly with a young child in the house.

You're now part of the sandwich generation in the middle of parenting your young child and your elderly parent.