caring for elderly parent

[shootingstar]

If the chosen option is rent an apartment for her and she's already frail, it might be a unsafe situation for her.

My partner's mom lived until she was 93 before she died last year.

She lived on her own until she was 89. There was a period of 4 previous years where she lived with her 2nd son in the U.S. but that was always seen as temporary since she was Canadian and health care would be less costly back at her home country.

What made it very clear that she needed to live in assisted care apartment (subsidized partially by govn't because of her low income level), were:

she fell on her face several times when she tripped over her dog's leashes in going out for a walk (broke her glasses, bruised her face), she needed a walker shortly thereafter and then, nearly burning her sleeve when she was cooking and then unable, to assess proper baking temperatures for her own cakes that it made my partner afraid she would acccidentally cause a fire (She was highly skilled in baking, gourmet stuff.)

My partner visited several times per wk. on his bike to check, etc.....she was 4 kms. away.

Then her dementia progressed initially slowly and later she fell, unable to get up for hours. Phone was only within 10 ft. of where she lay. So she moved into a nursing home and lucky it was subsidized.

Her eldest son, my partner, had power of attorney to deal with her finances and mail..especially latter from scamsters.

It sounds like your mother needs someone around to look after her on-site if something should happen that she might endanger herself.