Quote Originally Posted by Crankin View Post
When I got to the stopping place, I called him an a$$hole in front of the other guys who were kind of stunned. My DH is not an a$$hole by any means, but I figure if we are riding together, we are together. I guess it's kind of stupid, since most people think we are "sickening" in the amount of time we spend together. Most of it, was being upset over my crash that had happened earlier in the ride. Some of it is I don't like the feeling of being "alone" out on the road, especially in an unfamiliar place. I do ride alone, but less and less as the years go by. And yea, i do not like the feeling of being the one that is slower. I know he is stronger and always will be, and I don't have the will to train the way I would need to get any stronger than I am.
There have been the odd times here and there when happen (which is not often), I have lashed out in frustration at him only because I was exhausted, hot and these rare situations if it happens, are on near-all day rides. The best situation under these circumstances that he rides ahead --often half km. ahead. It gives me headspace to suffer while I chug along to simmer down.

Though I do cycle alot alone on my rides during the week at this time because of our different schedules, I miss him when he is out of town for a few days. It's the knowledge he's not around when I come home.

We have lost each other occasionally in areas I was not familiar with at all. Usually under an hr.

Over the years, he has done a ton of cycling on his own for long distance trips, etc., so we've been very fortunate that our cycling couple style works...usually he's way ahead of me. But it doesn't bother me as long as I don't lose sight of him for long, particularily in strange places.

He read some of this thread about some of the member's DHs and was vaguely amused at the innate "competitive" nature of some. He has enjoyed riding strong with at least 1 other guy..but by nature, he's a friendly cycling hermit alot of the times on the road. He's not one of your guys dressed in a cycling kit cycling in regularily in packs. It has never been his cycling nature.

But he is competitive...on several fronts...more to benefit cycling for everyone.