How do you get your DH/SO interested in riding with you?

[tctrek]

Apologies to the OP as this is probably thread drift... So, there it is. Most people that ride a bike are competitive. No one wants to be the slow one. No one wants to be dropped. We want to keep up with our friends and significant others that we are riding with. That feels good. Being the slow poke that's always far behind others feels bad... especially if you are the slow poke AND you are suffering. It's just that simple.

We do have choices, though. We can get our heads in a good place where getting dropped doesn't hurt -OR- train hard enough to get better -OR- ride alone -OR- find someone to ride with who is at our skill level. But getting mad at the people that ride better than us isn't really a great choice -- it's choosing to be frustrated and blaming our frustration on someone else. I know, 'cause I almost gave up on riding using the excuse that DH was leaving me all the time. It wasn't his problem, it was my frustration at being a slow poke,

From OP perspective, sounds like DH is stuck in that place many of us are or were -- just mad and maybe not even knowing why, but probably because he is getting "beat" by DW.

[Crankin]

I do ride with someone that is slower than me, for most of the rides I don't do with DH. Frankly, I have found it hard to find people who ride at my speed. It's not slow and apparently, it's not fast, either. I also have found one group I am "good" with. But deep down, I like riding with these people because most of them are slower than me! I get compliments from the guys and I can climb with the best of that group.
I don't like competition, but I guess there is a part of me that is competitive. DH keeps me on my toes and forces me to do a faster ride every so often, but the thrill of that has worn off. Getting dropped will always piss me off, so I choose to ride with people where the chances of that are not huge. Like I said, 99% of the time DH and i are riding together and we really are together.