Hello and welcome to triathlons!
Sounds like your hubby is so excited to share his love of tri's with you! That's really great!
For the tri suit... only wear it to race in. You should not practice in it when it comes to swimming. Now, I run in my sometimes, but I keep it out of the pool unless it's a race.
Buy a nice Speedo for your pool practice.
If you go to Speedo.com you can find really nice suits marked down big time! Just have to keep your eyes open.
Welcome to tri training and good luck!
"Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather, to skid in broadside thoroughly used-up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming: WOW WHAT A RIDE!!!!"