All I know is that I love my friends who supported me as I came out, I love my mom who laughed when I told her I was gay and she said she'd known since I was 16 (mind you, I didn't date a woman until I was 31), I love my managers who didn't fire me and feel pity for the ones who did, I love my coworkers who were so excited about my wedding, and I love my church for standing behind me and my family 100%.

LPH, all you have to do is tell your friend you love her and stand up for her and her rights. I think it's probably easier to do in Norway and the rest of the "First" world than it is here in the US, which may be why this thread has drifted so much. I hope you are still getting your question answered. Be willing to listen to her. If this is new to her (I had known about myself since I was about 5 years old, but I've known other gay women who really didn't have a clue until later) she may need to talk about it a lot. Like, A LOT A LOT A LOT. Listen. Invite her and her sweetie to dinner. Invite her alone for a walk. Be yourself. All shall be well.