disheartening dilemma

[Biciclista]

If guy buddy won't slow down to your pace, don't ride with him on this important ride.
Last weekend i found a great compromise with my guy buddy. I rode the 55 mile loop and he rode the 80. He rode with me for 25 miles AT MY SPEED and then we kissed goodbye and did the rest of our rides at our own rates.
YOU MUST COMMUNICATE THIS with your bike buddy. HE can ride any speed he wants but if he wants to ride with you, he has to let YOU be in charge of the speed. Good luck.

[Miranda]

If guy buddy won't slow down to your pace, don't ride with him on this important ride.
Last weekend i found a great compromise with my guy buddy. I rode the 55 mile loop and he rode the 80. He rode with me for 25 miles AT MY SPEED and then we kissed goodbye and did the rest of our rides at our own rates.
YOU MUST COMMUNICATE THIS with your bike buddy. HE can ride any speed he wants but if he wants to ride with you, he has to let YOU be in charge of the speed. Good luck.

That's a good compromise. My recent training rides are a pace that's easy for him. And one he said he'd still be happy with riding that far at. Looking back on my heartrate in my Garmin stats, the heart rate is high. Meaning my body was working really hard to hold that pace. I don't see me holding that for the whole century. Maybe if I give him the math that will help get it through... meet you in the parking lot post ride. Thx.

[Miranda]

OK... I tried to give my buddy the Garmin math. Didn't work. The math is that at his planned pace, my HR is 89-90% of my max. At 75-80% of my HR, is my lesser pace. I told him I didn't want to ride in the sag wagon and we would part ways, and re-meet up at the parking lot.

Thought I was golden on that. But, NOOO...

Gheez, typical... he says, "oh, you have a lot of time to train and improve, etc.".

OK, this is true. But, we're missing the point here. Which is...

*MY* improvement plan is increasing my miles at a pace that is comfortable for my HR. Not the speed focus. Have we not been over this already?

I think here is the thing... he does not want to ride it alone himself. After my pep talk on TE I am not worried about doing that anymore.

How I am gonna convince Mr. Fasty pants to ride on? If all goes as planned, we will do a training ride this w/e.

Maybe I can work on delivering my point some more then...

[Biciclista]

wow, he's stubborn, isn't he. You might put it in terms that imply that he might be AFRAID to ride by himself? That might motivate him to prove you wrong.
Bring him over here, I'll thwack him on the head.

[kenyonchris]

wow, he's stubborn, isn't he. You might put it in terms that imply that he might be AFRAID to ride by himself? That might motivate him to prove you wrong.
Bring him over here, I'll thwack him on the head.

I second that. That would drive me CRAZY. Too much togetherness. I feel claustrophobic just listening. YOU might have to whack him over the head, go on strike, or something. Reasoning does not seem to be working, does it?