parenting dilemma

[Tuckervill]

What other children/parents say is irrelevant unless you make an issue over it.

It's irrelevant in theory, but if someone says something that really wounds her, it will take on much relevance to her sense of self.

Karen

[Iris616]

It's irrelevant in theory, but if someone says something that really wounds her, it will take on much relevance to her sense of self.

Karen

And that's what I've been worried about....in 20 words or less.
But, I know that someday/somewhere, someone will say something cruel to her. If it's not about her clothes, it'll be about something else. Because, that's life. So, we'll just be there for her when it does happen. Hopefully, it won't be tomorrow.

[crazycanuck]

Iris..I just want to say you must be one cool mom

[Tuckervill]

Well, ya, Iris...and the dilemma is when to step in to prevent the cruelty and when to let them take the risk. Sometimes it's obvious, and sometimes it's more subtle.

I walked around a while with a half inch long black hair growing out of my chin, until my son pointed it out. I was astounded that my husband had not said anything, even though he admitted he'd noticed it. I think it this is one of those situations that if you LOVE me, you will PROTECT me from this embarrassment! At least he should have asked if I knew about it--like spinach in my teeth, you know?

That's where everyone has to decide how to act and react, with someone you love.

Karen

[Loraura]

You could always have a chat with your daughter, and tell her that "Some people might find it odd that you chose this suit. Are you OK with that?"

If she is, let her wear it! If not, help her pick out something else.

At least this way if she is teased, she will be prepared, and it won't hit her by surprize.

[Duck on Wheels]

How'd it go? Was your DD the cutest kid in the class? Did she have fun?

[Iris616]

How'd it go? Was your DD the cutest kid in the class? Did she have fun?

It was a great day! Thanks for asking. There are a couple pictures of her posted on my blog (link below), for any one who wants to see how great she looked.

Funny ending-we went to lunch afterwards. She happened to choose a restaurant where all the waitstaff wear ties- so she was surrounded by women in ties