parenting dilemma

[teigyr]

Iris616, I totally think you're doing the right thing

I remember wanting to be a boy in THE worst way. It didn't mean I truly wanted to be a boy, I just wanted to do Little League and fun getting dirty boy stuff. I liked boys, popular girls made me nervous, and I didn't quite fit in with the cool kids. Even after elementary school, I lived for high tops and 501's. I just didn't have quite the style that the girly-girls had.

As others have done, I also went through the "wanting to be an animal" stage, I wore cowboy stuff, and then transitioned gracefully into the purple-haired punk stage in H.S. None of it was ever to do with my gender identity or my sexuality.

I'm married and still alternate between wearing my husband's clothes and girly clothes. I love makeup and salons but one of the cool things about being a grown-up is I can choose how I want to be for the day. When I was in elementary school, MY mother said I could only wear pants one day a week. I remember feeling really awkward the rest of the days....ugh.

I think it's great your daughter has the creativity that she has and that you are allowing her to express it. Sometimes clothing is just clothing.

[GLC1968]

When I was that age, I refused to wear dresses. I don't remember shopping in the boys department, but I do remember getting annoyed that all the clothing in my size (6x) was too 'girly' and my friend who wore a girls 14 got to wear the 'cool' clothing (likely lesiure suit type pants...it was the 70's).

Two years later, I would only wear dresses and wanted to be a princess after having seen the disney movie 'Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs'.

Two years after that, I was the only girl on a boys soccer team (there were no girls teams then) and I wanted to be a boy so that it would be easier to pee at half-time.

By the time I got to college, I realized there were advantages to being a girl who could play with the boys.

All in all, I think I turned out reasonably 'normal'.


Anyway, I'm happy that you decided to let her wear the pants suit!

[Tuckervill]

I remember wanting to be a boy in THE worst way. It didn't mean I truly wanted to be a boy, I just wanted to do Little League and fun getting dirty boy stuff. I liked boys, popular girls made me nervous, and I didn't quite fit in with the cool kids. Even after elementary school, I lived for high tops and 501's. I just didn't have quite the style that the girly-girls had.

Wow, I could have written that, word for word.

Why wouldn't I want to be a boy? I had two older brothers whom I adored, and they got to do EVERYTHING! They got go EVERYWHERE! They even got to pee standing up!

It's a good thing I so identified with boys, because I ended up having 3 of my own. I understand them in a way I wouldn't have understood girls so much.

Karen

[AnnieBikes]

...and I had FOUR brothers who got to do all kinds of cool stuff...I identify with wanting to be a boy at a young age....but not to change the subject..

My beef is with the kindergarten graduation... Yes, it is a right of passage like any graduation, but around here there are TOO many graduations. Kindergarten, 6th grade, 8th grade, 12th grade.

To me, wearing "Sunday Best" should not be part of it. Dressing up like picture day would be much more like it. The girls at my sons' 8th grade graduations looked like they were going to proms. I would like to see all these grade school graduations played down WAY more than they are. Make the day special but don't have them go out and buy new clothes for the event. Many children cannot even afford SB clothes and then they are singled out.

You daughter should be allowed to wear whatever makes her happy, suit or dress. If you support her, then she will be happy. What other children/parents say is irrelevant unless you make an issue over it. She sounds like a great little gal to me. More kids should be so independent at that age!! Congrats on raising a good one!!