What dumb stuff have men said to YOU since taking up cycling???

[doctorfrau]

Seriously, I think some of you gals need to take a breath and just smile and say "thank you".

Guys don't admire the stuff about us that we WANT them to admire and they don't always put it in a WAY we want to hear, but if you turn off the chick-filter they really ARE complimenting you.

Guys admire muscles on other guys, so noting your muscles or your tree-trunk legs isn't a slam - it's a compliment!!!! Grab it and RUN!

Noting that you must have gorilla legs is the way for the guy to say - wow, I don't think "I" could climb those hills - you must therefore be awesome!

I used to really mind the fact that an old boyfriend would always comment on how "strong" I was. Why couldn't he say how good my hair smelled, or how sexy that new bra looked on me? I finally realized that in "guy-speak" he WAS complimenting me by admiring my strength and calling me "athletic" - which is something that I hadn't ever perceived myself as being.

Don't diss their compliments - you just have to "translate" them

[bluerider]

This is such a hilarious thread. Don't know if anyone has seen this but Nike has this new ad campaign out and it's about what our body tells about us. I love this one about "thunder thighs". I am proud of mine!!!

[LBTC]

this one from a girl I work with.

just for reference...I'm not a lot overweight - like 5 - 10 pounds - I just don't have anything straight on me! and I'm really short. and the girl who said it is a stick. way too skinny. probably 20 pounds lighter than me and 4 inches taller.

so she says "wow, for someone so petite you sure are stocky"

yes, I have some muscle definition in my shoulders and arms and I was wearing a sleeveless top. no, I'm not ripped, that extra 5-10 pounds hides the muscles a bit...

anyway, she kept on talking, trying to recover or something, until I finally said she she stop, after all, people might think she's flirting with me! heehee. for a catholic girl, she took that really well!

Namaste,
~T~

[Irulan]

Seriously, I think some of you gals need to take a breath and just smile and say "thank you".

Guys don't admire the stuff about us that we WANT them to admire and they don't always put it in a WAY we want to hear, but if you turn off the chick-filter they really ARE complimenting you.

yes, thanks for saying that. Focus on them and the gift they are giving you and not what kind of wrapper it comes in.

~Irulan

[bikerchick68]

awww, comeon now... I LIKE the wrapper... and the bows... and, and...

LOL. Yeah, I KNOW he meant it as a compliment. If I really believed he didn't I would've got up and walked outta the date. That, however, does not prevent me from shaking my head at the compliment itself... tree trunks...

My garden friends have suggested I find out if he meant a crape myrtle or an oak!

[rn2binca]

awww, comeon now... I LIKE the wrapper... and the bows... and, and...

My garden friends have suggested I find out if he meant a crape myrtle or an oak!

All I can say is thanks for this topic. I truly needed a great chuckle this morning. This one finally got me laughing out loud.

I say "Be Proud, Be Strong!" The fact that we CAN ride a bike (although mine isnt here yet so I should say YOU) is a gift.

Women want the bows and pretty wrapper. Most men just don't know how to wrap a present.

Tracy

[Rakekay]

LOL. Yeah, I KNOW he meant it as a compliment. If I really believed he didn't I would've got up and walked outta the date. That, however, does not prevent me from shaking my head at the compliment itself... tree trunks...

What I really want to know is, are you going out with that guy again?

[bikerchick68]

LOL... No... but not because of that comment... there were some things said and behaviors discussed that were big red flags for me... he'll be great for someone... just not me...