Overeating

[shootingstar]

shootingstar - that's interesting and totally opposite of what I saw with my best friend when we were kids. Did you live in a culture where no one had tons of sweets, or was your family unique?

I ask because I had a friend growing up who lived next door to us when we were around 10 years old. She was my best friend and both she and younger sister would have meals or sleepovers at our house all the time. Let me back up a bit...my parents didn't deny us anything in terms of food. We didn't really have 'rules' about food at my house, either. Basically, 1) you weren't allowed to say that you didn't like something until you'd as least tried it and 2) every meal had veggies. I grew up loving fruits and veggies even though we had things like sugar cereals, cookies, chips etc in the house. (We were not allowed Cheerios because my mother hated them and how they smelled, but anything else was 'game'). Those things are now no big deal to me. BUT, my friends who lived next door? Their parents were strict vegetarians and health food fanatics. They had NO sweets in their house, ever. They weren't even allowed things like pizza and no soda ever graced their lips. When I would hang out over there, we'd snack on frozen blueberries because that's all they had for 'snack foods'. Anyway, when these girls would come to our house, they'd go nuts. 3 and 4 servings of pancakes (if my mom made them) and they'd literally lick the syrup off the plate. They'd gobble up 3 or 4 hotdogs each if that what we had. They'd polish off bags of chips and if we asked what they wanted for breakfast, it was always 'cereal!' and they'd eat multiple bowls. My mother was afraid that they were starving!

Fast forward to college and they both blew up like balloons. I think that because everything was denied them (when they saw all their friends eating it), they never learned control. It was unreal.

+1 on trying food as a child & loving veggies & fruits as child. I didn’t quite understand my peers’ complaints about veggies. My parents were/are not vegetarian. But they were abit stricter than yours. Mother occasionally bought boxed oatmeal cookies which she rationed out for us. It didn’t happen often. Sure, we had ice cream 1-2 times per wk. during summer. She allowed older kids to learn to portion out each person’s share of ice cream into bowls. None of us dove into the freezer secretly for extra ice cream. Probaby knew mother would figure it out and had to face her wrath. Her wrath was serious.

I can compare us against relatives who cook traditional Chinese in a way different from mother. For instance, they use more oil, salt and not so carefully cut off the chicken fat/skin like my mother. Since my father was a restaurant cook, he had insight on some unhealthy dishes, and from reading English language newspapers on health hazards/concerns, he also influenced how we could eat better. This transformation to healthier eating started around when I was 11-12 yrs. and onward. I do remember eating chicken fat cracklings prior…

Wow, your friends’ parents were very strict. Like you, I agree it is helpful parents provide healthy attitudes about all kinds of foods and how it is portioned out/when it should be served to children.


Any traditional Asian cuisine cookbook and any ‘traditional” Asian restaurant menu, lacks decent diversity of desserts. The cuisine traditionally just is not known for much desserts. The emphasis traditionally after a meal, is fresh fruit. Ie. cut oranges, etc.

Hence, this influenced how my mother cooked. By the way, she left a lot of baking (except for egg sponge cakes, which are steamed, not baked. That is the traditional Chinese method) to us older teenagers to try a recipe of muffins or cookies. Only time, we were allowed to overtake the kitchen.

Even now the Chinese bakeries, don’t offer a fantastic range of desserts. Not compared to a European bakery. And anything where you see some mousse-like cakes, tarts, etc….is just aspirations to cater to Western-oriented palates (and make money).

The photo that I posted in TE a few days ago, where I wore a skort --I credit cycling...AND my mother's style of healthy cooking, it is this foundation to my current bone structure, size and if I have to be on a "diet", I just fall back..on how I ate as child/teen minus alot less white rice.

Thanks to mother..and father too.