Myth: Durham is the ghetto. You will get shot if you walk down the street. You should not go outside at night for fear of your safety (yes, a wedding website for a ceremony we're invited to says not to go outside after dark "for your safety.") Even my co-workers query whether I fear for my safety, and how I get my groceries because "it's so dangerous" and I must not go out alone.

Truth: Durham is a lovely, quirky, progressive little town. Yes, it has bad areas. So do the larger "cleaner" neighbors. If you have common sense, you'll be fine. Believe me, I wouldn't live here if I couldn't go outside after dark