Significant Other Personality

[indigoiis]

My DH was a bachelor through his thirties, no serious relationship before me. I was a divorced single mom. He is the quiet man and very neat and organized - a tool guy who can fix or build anything. He loves history and rides a 1982 Colnago. I am a chatterbox and a slob. We both love to read and we love our farm and do just about everything together, so I would consider him my best friend. He is not the best person to take to a party and he is sometimes without words at the dinner table and doesn't always know how to relate to my (also quiet) artist teenager, but he's come a long, long way. I've known him since 1996 when I was still married to the first... we met in a Thomas Hardy book discussion group on AOL. We were all friends and he and I dated a little after the divorce, broke up, dated again, and finally got married in 2006. It was well worth the wait.

[Norse]

My partner and I have been together for 13 years now. We met through a mutual friend who invited us both to a party and told each other about the other person in advance. She was playing matchmaker. We both laughed her off at first but, of course, she was right!

I would have to say that we are complimentary. I am a neat freak and a control freak, she is more "come what may" and "that can wait." It helps keep me balanced. I do not like to yell and prefer logical discussions, she has a quick Irish temper, so I help to keep her balanced. While some of our interests are shared, we have different ones as well. For instance, I love biking while her bike gathers dust and she prefers running or walking. At our core though, we share the same or similar values, have similar beliefs re: what's important in life and we share enough interests to have fun together. She is also my best friend and the first person I want to talk to when something goes wrong, and the first person I want to share good news with. Another key: we make each other laugh, often.

[Karma007]

Very intersting thread! I would love to tell you all the story of my fiance' and I, but it would be a novel. In a nutshell, we met (and fell in love) 14 years ago, but it took that long to get the timing right. If it weren't for his fierce belief in me, and in destiny, I would have never found the courage it took to find my way back to him. We'll be married in October, not just for forever, but for "No Matter What".

On a practical level, we are complimentary; I'm detail oriented, and he's a big picture kind of guy; he's handling the logisitics of buying a house, and I play with the details of planning a wedding. (We give eachother daily updates).

We've both been through some rough stuff over the years, so learning what the other one needs has been our focus right now. We know from experience that poor communication can be fatal. In a previous relationship, for example, each of us gave %100, but it just wasn't what the other person needed. You have to talk.

So we talk. And laugh. And sing, and are generally annoying to other people, and it's grand...