I don't know if I can hold this against Lance. My husband is 15 years older than me and already had two pre-teen kids from his first marriage when we met. He didn't want to have more kids, and I accepted that before we got engaged. It was better for Lance to call off the engagement, than to enter a marriage where you don't agree on whether or not to have children. Someone will be disappointed. I've often said that just because you love someone, doesn't mean you should marry them.