also;
old ex flame whom I contacted after 8 years wrote me.
sadly,
was going to get married, but got addicted to drugs.His girl left him for another and then suicided.
He three years later,cleaned up , had another girl but she moved in with him, unasked.
Never payed rent.
He threw her out,and she SUED HIM!
Hes 3000 in debt from doctors bills, overdue rent,general bills, is on food stamps and sold his beloved acoustic guitar to pay rent. had to get a bankruptcy.

Whats awesome, is that I have money saved up, and am sending him a 1000!!( he was always really good to me, even though it never worked out.
I am waiting to see what he says( I bet he will be surprised!)