Hi Sue and welcome back to the cycling scene
Not sure it helps, since saddles are a very personal choice, but this is what I use:
-on my road bikes, I have the Selle San Marco aspide carbon superleggera. Here it is: http://www.glorycycles.com/sanmaassuca.html it does have sort of a groove so really there is no pressure at all. The downside is that it is expensive
Before buying this one I had a seat with a cutout, Selle Italia SLR gel flow. It is very comfortable, one of my favorites over the years, but a little bit too padded. I like the plain carbon better because it has no padding on top and it makes the ride more comfortable.
-on my time trial bike I keep an old Selle San Marco Era arrowhead gelaround (they don't make this anymore, but it was wonderful although still a little bit too padded). I might try to switch to the carbon for that bike too, but haven't decided yet.
An all of my bikes, the saddle nose is actually pointed downwards, always been like that in over 30 years.
Hope this helps and good luck!