Gwen, I am sorry that happened to you.
I have been on that ride and they were not too friendly. When I realized I couldn't keep up, my husband turned around and waited for me, to go with the group doing the shorter ride. They sort of told him he was being silly...
I like riding with the Wednesday Wheelers, because they keep everyone together and it is social, but I do not like CRW rides on the whole, even though I belong. Last year we did the Spring metric and there were sooooo many ill mannered and unsafe riders. I crashed because someone stopped short in front of me, causing the woman behind me to crash, too. She was injured and her bike was messed up. The guys kind of laughed it off; if I hadn't had my "leader" first aid stuff in my bag and Steve hadn't had his tools, she would have been left there.
I always ask, "Do you need anything?"