You're a good mother to think of her feelings. Your daughter probably will appreciate your honesty, and I wouldn't wait to tell her. She would want to know right away, I think, and not feel like it is big news that is being kept from her for some reason.

You've been with this man for 14 years? Does she like him? That'd be very important to me.

Let her help you with the wedding, especially where it involves her.

Congratulations!!

Karen