I'm not supposedly perimenopausal yet, but I have poly cystic ovary disorder so I have a LOT of similar problems. I would gladly deal with a head full of GREY hair if it meant I had a HEAD FULL OF HAIR.
My hair is very thin on the crown of my head, I've not got the moustache (YET) but I have the whiskers on my chin. Until I'd started riding the hair on my legs HAD slowed growing, now, since I'm riding, I nearly need to shave them daily.
Hot flashes UGH... want to run screaming Nekkid and then it STILL wouldn't cool you off.
I don't know where I originally found the inner child playing with matches quote, but I loved it so much I put it on my siganture for my main email account.