Getting married- ? do I change my name

[GLC1968]

Everyone who said they like the "team" or family having the same name, my question is, why does it have to be "his" name?

Karen

We felt (and still do) that the team idea was important to us. Oddly enough, it never even occurred to me to ask if he'd take my name when we got married. I was just so excited to get a name that was easier to pronounce/spell! Anyway, after reading this thread again, I just asked my H if he'd have taken my last name had I asked. 6 years later, his answer: sure, why not?

For us, it's just a name. My identity is defined by who I am and how I live...not by what people call me.

Honestly, nothing bristles me more than when people assume that I'm not a strong independent woman just because I took my husband's last name.

[kfergos]

We felt (and still do) that the team idea was important to us. Oddly enough, it never even occurred to me to ask if he'd take my name when we got married. I was just so excited to get a name that was easier to pronounce/spell! Anyway, after reading this thread again, I just asked my H if he'd have taken my last name had I asked. 6 years later, his answer: sure, why not?

For us, it's just a name. My identity is defined by who I am and how I live...not by what people call me.

Honestly, nothing bristles me more than when people assume that I'm not a strong independent woman just because I took my husband's last name.

Ditto.

[limewave]

I haven't read every single post, so apologies if its gotten off topic or someone already mentioned this . . .

I took on DH's last name and changed my middle name to my maiden name. Make sense? It was more work to do that, but it was worth it. Of course, my maiden name was Dean, so it wasn't a strange name to make a middle name.

I go by all three names in some circles and just first and last in others. I thought it was a nice way to keep my maiden name, yet I don't have to sign papers and checks with a hyphenated last name.

[Zen]

I really like both my first and middle names. I don't think I've ever met anyone that has my middle name as their first name. I'd never just drop it to fit something else in.

If heell freezes over and I ever get married again I might just change my last name to McGee. It goes with everything

[ny biker]

I really like both my first and middle names. I don't think I've ever met anyone that has my middle name as their first name. I'd never just drop it to fit something else in.

If heell freezes over and I ever get married again I might just change my last name to McGee. It goes with everything

But what if you marry a guy whose last name is McGee???

[pinkychique]

I skipped on some of this thread, too, so hopefully it's not redundant...

I am one of the children with both my mom/dad's names. My mom kept her name when she got married, I've heard that it was because 1) she had already started a professional career and didn't want to confuse anyone, and 2) she doesn't like that taking his name is following the old convention of the husband owning his wife. I was born Aubrey Dad'sLastname, and got the option in first grade to add my mom's name on, so now I'm Mom'sLastname-Dad'sLastname. A LOT of people think that I'm married because I'm hyphenated, but I'm not. But I like having my name hyphenated because it makes it a completely unique name, and I'm pretty sure that even though I have a LONG signature I am not ever going to take my future DH's name, if ever there be. My sister took her husband's name when she got married, and now I think her name sounds silly instead of unique. And now I'm really the only person in the world with my name. That's really cool . I bet though that when/if I have children, they'll have my theoretical DH's name, to make things simple....not sure though.