What are small weak girl hands? Come on! I remember getting a ticket when I was 15 on a moped (didn't have a permit yet) and the judge said it was dangerous for me to ride because I had small weak girl hands. My Dad got mad, he said any kid that can shovel manure for 3 hours a day can squeeze the brakes on a moped. The problem isn't your hands, it's the brakes. And if you think strength is an issue get a ball of therapy squeezey stuff and work out at you desk during the day.

BTW, I put compact bars and shims on my bike and it helped-but still a bit of a stretch on the hoods.