Marriage: it isn't all roses and rainbows

[eclectic]

(((((((big hug))))))) for a strong brave woman

I am so glad you made the appointment this quickly - and I got a warm, good all over feeling when I read the post about you talking to your husband.

re crazy people see shrinks - Shrinks are medical doctors trained to treat disorders of the brain. If your thyroid quit working you would go to an internist and get medicine, if your pancreas quit working you would go on insulin. The brain and it's chemical levels are no different.

Re other people's problems - I am sorry to hear about your team teachers son I am sure that is having an effect on you too. And maybe the fact your good friend leaving her husband had a bearing on your marriage feelings (just a guess)

I was glad to hear you say "but I guess if they're the worst problems I'm facing then they're that bad" Truer words were never spoken

another ((((((((big hug))))))))

When you can't hold yourself up - let others carry you - You have many friends here on TE

[salsabike]

Honey, if only crazy people see shrinks, then the human race is crazy (which we are, a bit, just by nature). Believe me, you have lots of quite sane company out here.

You will get through this. And good for you for taking action.

[Irulan]

Conversations like these are how the supposed stigma of getting help for mental issues is erased. It's educating people that yes - it's just another possible illness or situation that can be helped with proper treatment.

That's why I am not shy about talking about my mental health. Well, I don't broadcast it from building rooftops, but I don't hide it either.

I blew up at a gal once. She came to me and was gossiping about a mutual acquaintance: do you know she's on anti-depressants and all that? OHMYGOD!!
I reamed her out. I said, do you know I take anti-depressants and will for the rest of my life? ( she didn't) If she were taking cardiac medication, would you talk about her like that? S

Now, I'm not trying to imply that OP will need medication or anything else, just try to explain that there are various shades of treatment that will help mental issues, and it's nothing to hide. As usual, I feel as eloquent as a bull in a china shop....

[crazycanuck]

I have to admit I'd be too afraid to go & see a psychologist or other metal health person. I don't like the word or even the image of "therapy'. I guess because it's an overused term in the world?
In terms of medication, if i required it for a mental health issue, ok.

Now before you jump on me, my dad has been dealing with PTSD for about 10yrs now. If it wasn't for anti depressants, very good friends & a great dr, he wouldn;t be here right now. He's decreased some of the meds but as soon as he notices a certain trigger feeling, he'll increase it a bit.

I'm in a rush & will have to describe this a bit better later on.

[OakLeaf]

CC, "therapy" means something in the orthopaedic world too, and the analogy is pretty close.

Some people do need orthopaedic surgery. Some people do need psychiatric meds. (At this point I believe I'm one of them.)

Many people need physical therapy but either they or their doctor doesn't want to do the work, so they get surgery instead. Many people need talk therapy but either they or their doctor doesn't want to do the work (or their insurance will cover drugs but not therapy), so they get meds instead.

Just as physical therapy rearranges the physical structures of the bones and soft tissues, talk therapy rearranges the physical structures of the brain. (Yes, it's been proved.)

'Kay?

[solobiker]

Hang in there, you are a very strong person. When I read your 1st post it sounded very much like me. I have been married for close to 13 years and was just recently trying to dig myself out of the biggest rut that life had to offer me. Please hang in there, it takes a lot of courage to seek assistance so you have my highest respect. It will get better.

[Irulan]

I have to admit I'd be too afraid to go & see a psychologist or other metal health person. I don't like the word or even the image of "therapy'. I guess because it's an overused term in the world?
In terms of medication, if i required it for a mental health issue, ok.

Now before you jump on me, my dad has been dealing with PTSD for about 10yrs now. If it wasn't for anti depressants, very good friends & a great dr, he wouldn;t be here right now. He's decreased some of the meds but as soon as he notices a certain trigger feeling, he'll increase it a bit.

I'm in a rush & will have to describe this a bit better later on.

I think you read my post all wrong. Or maybe I'm not articulating properly.

I have been taking meds for 10 years and will do it lifelong and I am very sensitive about the stigma thing because I think it indicates ignorance about mental health issues.

I jumped all over this gal because of the tone of the gossip "so and so is doing this, can you believe it?" It was the tone and attitude she had, she was saying it like she was gossiping about a neighbor cheating on a spouse, done in whispers and dramatics. She said it like something was wrong with this other person because she takes medication, and that is what pissed me off. What really pissed me of is 1. was none of her business. 2. So what. 3. I already knew 4. gossiping like that is lame, negative and unproductive.

[crazycanuck]

I'll keep my mouth shut from now on in regards to mental health issues as I know where i stand in the world. Irulan-I understood what you meant & have never said anything bad against anyone else taking meds!!!


Tri Girl-sorry to have hijacked your thread. I do hope everything works out for you. I realize you've been under stress at work & just haven't been there to really understand how you feel. Take care & yes, if you require immediate help, do not stop, just go & find it!!!

[Irulan]

Tri Girl-sorry to have hijacked your thread. I do hope everything works out for you. I realize you've been under stress at work & just haven't been there to really understand how you feel. Take care & yes, if you require immediate help, do not stop, just go & find it!!!

yep same here, oops sorry!!

[solobiker]

Honey, if only crazy people see shrinks, then the human race is crazy (which we are, a bit, just by nature). Believe me, you have lots of quite sane company out here.

You will get through this. And good for you for taking action.

I have to add that I agree with this. There are a lot of people that ask for assistance. It is sometimes good to talk with people that are not close to your situation to give you a different perspective and to give you the tools you need.