Everyone's comments mirror my own feelings. Initially I refused to get them. Said I was more relaxed and safe without. One day my partner nudged me and I broke down and bought some hot new red shoes and clipless pedals. Within two blocks I crashed in the street at a 4 way stop. Simpering and limping to the side I was mad! He was great. We got off the road and went up and down a side road until I thought I could make it home. Suffice it to say there was one more crash. Slowly I learned how to unclip before the stop (sign, light or just a blind driveway) and hold that foot on the pedal but off the clip part. Over months the security has grown and finally I've come to both love and depend on them. Still, even now, I unclip before he does at any intersection or possible 'problem.' That's just my comfort zone. We each find ours over time. It's a hurdle it seems everyone faces and gradually learned to manage and then finally think back to those unclipped rides and be so thankful to be beyond that. It takes time and patience...with yourself and whatever fears you have. Go slow and go kindly. We've all been there! Hope that helps.
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