Driving:when will you stop?

[redrhodie]

My little city is pretty good for having everything in walking distance, but the big problem (other than there's no Indian restaurant) is that no one shovels their sidewalks. It must be really awful for the elderly and wheelchair bound to get around here in winter. Just something to consider about New England.

[denny]

Gosh, this thread has really made me start thinking about the unthinkable. I really do have to start planning more.

I just got back from Fort Myers, FL yesterday and it seems like there were so many people on bikes both old and young. Interestingly, many don't seem to be concerned with wearing helmets. I did notice there were some elderly people who were on tri-cycles complete with panniers and flags who had been shopping somewhere. I thought that it was such a neat option to continue getting around in the absence of public transport.

I think NYC is great for it's transit system, but generally unsafe and cold.
Miami sounds nice and warm,not sure about affordability. The Golden Girls sure made it look like fun though.

[Miranda]

My mom is turning 80 this year and I was just having this same conversation *sigh*. I certainly want her, and others to be safe, but it's sad to see the driving go.

I personally have had some medical recovery things where I could not drive by doc's orders. Omg, it was awful! That loss of independence is depressing.

But, cars can become two ton killing machines when they go bad. Glad your dad has the sense to know to withdraw. My mom does as well. Just dirves the minimum (not at night, no free ways, etc.). But, my FIL on the other hand does not. It scares me.

[shootingstar]

I feel as if I live another planet.
So many of you (but not all), would find it difficult not to drive at that more frail time in life later.

And most surprisingly just last week, my dearie said to me: "I only drive for you now". Meaning we only rent a car 1-2 times annually..so that we can zip around faster in vacation area. After all, we've been together a long time and to hear this latest pronouncement.

He's 65 and is a cyclist but does have a real lifelong sleep disorder that causes him to fall asleep at steering wheel after 1-2 hrs. of straight driving. usually after an hr. of driving he has to nap for about 15 min. while I get out walk around or sit around in the car. Not a big deal to me.

I will never be able to convince him otherwise since years ago, he had a big scare while driving. He did fall sleep for a few seconds when he was driving his son who was 10 at the time of this incident. He found himself by the side of the road ok. But couldn't remember how he got there. He was in his mid 40's at that time.

It scared him enough, that he gave up the idea of ever owning a car.

Would it help that I drove to take over from him? I suppose if I was a type A vacationing airhead and thought he was spoiling my vacation/my life. But no, I'm just a non-car hill-billy.

So the future of no driving in old age...looks similar to now..maybe I might walk slower at that frail time or take a few more taxis.