Veronica,

I am neither a teacher nor a parent but through my own life experiences, I have learned two important things regarding the alleged failure of which you speak:

1) You cannot expect something from someone who has not already demonstrated that quality or behavior. Firstly, you are setting yourself up for disappointment and secondly, it is somewhat unfair. Although there is a small difference in supporting and encouraging another person to fulfill his or her own potential, it is not prudent to expect achievements beyond that person's capability.

2) Change which we wish to see in others is impossible without the will of the individual. Even if he or she claims they want to change, the possibility will not even come about without them actually wanting to change themselves.

I hope this situation is resolved soon.