Need help for my Daughter NOW!!!!

[jobob]

Poor mom, what a traumatic time for both of you, having this happen the night before a big race and all. Hardly the Hallmark Card moment...

Depending on your time zone, the race might even be over by now. Hope whatever you decided to do worked out OK.

I think some of us might be a bit taken aback by your feelings about tampons. Your daughter is obviously athletic so they are the most practical solution. Is your reaction just because this is all happening so fast? It's understandable if you had intended to introduce tampons to her gradually, get her used to the changes in her body first. I feel for you two having to confront all these issues all at once ! It must be a bit of a shock for you too, your little girl is growing up - congratulations!

Well, best wishes in your new stage of motherhood

- Jo.

[Trek420]

jobob sez "what a traumatic time for both of you, having this happen the night before a big race and all. Hardly the Hallmark Card moment..."

but can you imagine the Hallmark card!

[Irulan]

jobob sez "what a traumatic time for both of you, having this happen the night before a big race and all. Hardly the Hallmark Card moment..."

but can you imagine the Hallmark card!

I've always been of the frame of mind that if I had had daughters, I would honor the first period with a something, a celebration of transition into woman hood. I've read of wonderful modern day ceremonies where a father buys his daugter flowers and takes her out to dinner, or small rituals honoring the transition. For too long in modern culture periods have been treated as something gross, nasty, disgusting ("the curse") instead of a recognition that now you have the power to create life.

irulan

[Trek420]

Irulan, I agree, I've read that some feel that one o' the problems with youth in our culture is there is no ceremony, something marking the tranistion from child to adult. First car doesn't really do it, what does?

[DirtDiva]

Irulan, I agree, I've read that some feel that one o' the problems with youth in our culture is there is no ceremony, something marking the tranistion from child to adult. First car doesn't really do it, what does?

I wasn't sure I was an adult in my parents' eyes until I was 23 and I surfaced at about 1.30 one Saturday afternoon (I was in one of my living at home again phases) and they both looked up from their lunch and said "Oh, are you here? We thought you hadn't gotten in yet" seeming more surprised that I had been tucked up in my own bed than if I had spent the entire night out. Would have been nice to have a ceremony, but I had to walk to my friend's house to pick up my car...

[MightyMitre]

I've always been of the frame of mind that if I had had daughters, I would honor the first period with a something, a celebration of transition into woman hood. I've read of wonderful modern day ceremonies where a father buys his daugter flowers and takes her out to dinner, or small rituals honoring the transition. For too long in modern culture periods have been treated as something gross, nasty, disgusting ("the curse") instead of a recognition that now you have the power to create life.

irulan

Wow! Very cool and so positive!

[shewhobikes]

I've always been of the frame of mind that if I had had daughters, I would honor the first period with a something, a celebration of transition into woman hood.

irulan

My youngest got her first period on her 13th birthday. As it happened, we'd already planned to dress up and take her out to a nice restaurant where there's a live orchestra and dancing, and that's what we did! I have a beautiful photograph of her from that night and I wouldn't trade anything for our 'double celebration.'

I gave my 2 girls all the supplies they might choose from (well, not the diva yet) and they've managed themselves well. Tampons were a little tricky at first (we sort of went through a box apiece until they were able to do it, but after that I heard no complaints.) The youngest is really tiny so we are always scavening through WalMart for junior size!

[RoadRaven]

I've always been of the frame of mind that if I had had daughters, I would honor the first period with a something, a celebration of transition into woman hood. I've read of wonderful modern day ceremonies where a father buys his daugter flowers and takes her out to dinner, or small rituals honoring the transition. For too long in modern culture periods have been treated as something gross, nasty, disgusting ("the curse") instead of a recognition that now you have the power to create life.

irulan

Well said Irulan
With the rise of Judaeo-Christian religions and Islam, the place women amongst the pantheons faded from being the first, to being wives and daughters to being almost nothing... and with it our visibility and "power" has waned.
We should be celebrating our daughters whenever we can - including this time... her first "dark moon"... we have the power to create life... we should celebrate when this power begins...