I'm sorry if I offended anyone, but I feel strongly about making time for yourself. Jody, my second son was also born early, 4 weeks. He cried constantly. The first one had colic so badly that we had to put him on medication. I couldn't have lived without exercising. Yes, I put my kids on a schedule. I didn't breast feed. I tried with #1, but I hated it and he was really small and was getting nothing. I didn't want to do it to begin with, but I felt peer pressure. Once I made the decision to stop, I felt like a weight had been lifted. He ate every 3-4 hours and my husband was able to do the 1 AM feeding so I could sleep between 9 PM and 5 AM. When I went back to work with the first one my husband sold his business, was finishing his last semester at ASU and he stayed home. It was great. The second was planned to arrive in May, but came in the middle of April (I'm a teacher, so this was very well planned). I went to back to work for the last week of school, but basically was home for about 5 months, as I was on "house arrest" for 6 weeks before the delivery because I went into early labor. I know that most people disagree with what was right for me, but my kids were both planned and very wanted. But, i knew that totally giving up everything that was me wouldn't have been possible. I did have a lot of support from different child care providers and friends and I did need it when my kids became toddlers because my husband travelled a lot. I know that not everyone has a husband who really is an equal parent, but I was married to a real a****** before, and I swore that when I remarried, it would have to be to someone who was going to be an equal partner, or I would not have remarried. Everyone is different. But I feel good that both of my boys saw an example of an equal partnership and they see the contributions that we both made to their upbringing. Probably the best compliment that I have received was from my oldest son who told me that we were very good role models for a marriage.