Am I a Whiner?

[smurfalicious]

This and the reference to the old guy who keeps coming up to talk to you, makes thing of borderline harassment. You might think about that.

Oh, I should have prefaced this because out of context it sounds awful. I was mentioning that I wanted to go hear him talk. He was joking about what a perv Roll was and that I should watch out for him. That sentence was more of a, "But hey, if that's what you're into." I don't mind that stuff, really. Honestly the fact that we can say things like that without everyone getting butthurt is rather relaxing. I've worked in bars and restaurants all my life and even in the fancy ones there was a lot off color joking. It's the digs at me that bug me.

Though I realize the tactic of 'slinging it right back' to the guys is intended to be helpful, I think in the long term it just encourages them to go further and further with their inappropriate remarks and behavior.
It's like little boys being as bad as they can be, forever searching for where the boundaries are, testing to find the limits of their parents' permissiveness.

Hmmms, maybe I phrased that wrong. I've decided that rather than ignoring it, or getting butthurt I'm going to calmly turn it around. Like the jersey thing. I was still playful but I think Shaine got the message that he could make fun of it all day and I was still going to wear it. That his barbs had no impact on the pride I felt in that jersey. And the Hodge thing, I think if I joke about it, it becomes a whole lot less fun for them because it doesn't rile me up.

I still hold a lot of ancient customer service secrets in me after 4 years at T-Mobile. If I can diffuse livid customers and leave them smiling I can certainly tell them I think they're being jerks without saying it or stooping to their level.

Thanks for all the advice ladies. I think it's really helped to put it in perspective. And the other day a good friend suggested that maybe I am being a touch sensitive. She said the same thing when I said I wanted a BMX bike, "What the h*ll do you want that for?" Because I wanna be 10 again, duh!