Am I a Whiner?

[Crankin]

While I have been known to "give it right back" to disgusting comments and actions from men, I have to agree with Bleeker. This is harassment and I would not put up with it for a minute. Not all guys are like this! The longer all of us let s*** like this go on, the longer they will keep doing it. Sorry, I don't ascribe to the humor them theory.
Now I know that Smurf really wanted this job and I also know that she is pretty young (well, compared to me). A firm "Stop right now... enough" might stop the comments.
And I have found it not to be a wise thing to socialize with people I work with. This doesn't mean you can't be friendly, but like I used to tell my students,"Friendly, not friends," when I would explain that they had to work with others who they weren't friends with or didn't otherwise like.

[Tuckervill]

If I thought all my hard work raising three sons to respect women would go right out the window because "that's the way guys are", I'd be in despair.

"Guys" aren't "like that". My husband is not. My sons are not. I expect them to behave appropriately, no excuses. When they hurt someone's feelings, I expect them to stop, and then apologize. I don't care if they don't believe what they did was wrong. If the person they offended feels offended, I expect them to acknowledge that and apologize, or at least KNOCK IT OFF.

Tell them to KNOCK IT OFF, Smurf. They deserve it.

Karen