how to deal with DH...

[Biciclista]

Irulan
congrats on paying off your house.


BB,
please take that class and get out of the house! and i wish you and your husband peace between you.
it sounds like you put up with a lot and have much need of escaping your basement. do it. and be stronger about your needs.

M

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Humans weren't meant to spend their days closed up in dark basements. You might wind up like the blind cave salamander!

[Mr. Bloom]

Bouncy, it sounds like you've sorted out a solution but don't be afraid to dip into "shared money". I'm going to offer the husband's perspective (and yes, I've been where he is and Silver's been where you are...and I was wrong (not always) but my perspective was narrow at best)

I like the feedback that you got from Indysteel and Biciclista.

Since I share some some narrow minded tendencies with your DH, I'm going to assume that there are similarities with how I might respond if you said:
- for all the reasons you say above, this is something you want to do.
- you work hard in a dark place all day long and, particularly this time of year, it's hard to stay motivated and excited
- you'll try to economize in other ways to offset the expense,
- BUT, the expense is reasonable and you feel strongly about wanting to do it.

Don't make it about fancy phones (pointing out something 'wrong' about him)...make it about what's good and fair for you.

When he sees a happy and bouncy bouncybouncy, he'll get it and may want to join in

[bouncybouncy]

Just an update and a big thank you to all who made a suggestion!!!

I discussed with hubby my intention to use my allowance to pay for the class along with tighten up my personal spending in order to do this. I also explained in more detail how I thought it would help my self-esteem...so he said OK, try it!

I have paid for classes through Feburary and still have $25 in my pocket for whatever (put towards March...hehe)

I have done 2 classes so far with hubby's support....he has seen how happy (Although tired!!!) I am when I come home from the class so I think he is A-OK with it now!



now I must go rest my weary legs!!!

[tulip]

Excellent! Put that $25 in yer piggy bank for later. Hey, I go to Asheville every few months for work; we should ride!

[bouncybouncy]

Tulip....Yes we should!!! I think you were here once last year but I could not hook up with you for whatever reason!

Give me a heads up next time you are on your way and we can make a plan!

We can PM to exchange phone info...

I live in Arden, don't know the roads too well but have friends who do! I do know the dirt if you want to go off road!

wooohoooo!

[bouncybouncy]

Just wanted to give another wonderful update:

Hubby & I went on a road ride yesterday with a buddy of his...hubby and buddy are uber-roadies (buddy in fact races seriously...until his latest most unfortunate crit crash)

All 3 of us are "getting back on the bike" after a few months of "life" and injury recovering. I pulled those 2 extremely competitive men for a few miles at a very consistent 22 mph pace all the while listening to them chat...

DB: woah look at her form
DH: yeah she looks good uh?
DB: she is so consistent
DH: her spinning is smooth!
DB: she is making me hurt...
DH: don't let her fool you...she has been taking a spinning class taught by a pro
DB: it's working!!!

the pull comes to an end at a stop sign...

DH: that class is really working for you...good pull!!!
DB: Girl! you got it going on!!!
Me: grinning from ear to ear!!!

hehe...I am so happy and hubby is quite impressed! He admitted he is glad I put my foot down and took these classes. He also admitted he was afraid I was not going to take it seriously, but apparently I am and workin 'em for my benefit!

Thank you all for listening!

***DB= dear buddy