how to deal with DH...

[Crankin]

If you are working, I don't see why he should complain about the $, unless you as a couple, have made a decision to cut down on spending. I mean, if you can't afford it, you shouldn't spend it, but if it isn't going to affect you buying necessities, then I would have an honest discussion with him and tell him you are going to do it. Maybe you could cut back elsewhere?
A few years ago I signed up for personal training at my gym (700.00 for 3 months). I was working, making good money, high 5 figures. I didn't feel any need to ask for permission, even though we share our money. I wouldn't do it now, though, because even though we can live very nicely on my husband's salary, that is something that I don't have to do, even though it would be beneficial for my mental and physical health. My good friend is working with a trainer now and I really want to, but it's not going to happen.

[bouncybouncy]

Wow, thanks!!! Lots of good perspectives and "ammo" to go back to hubby with.

The money (in my mind) doesn't seem to be the issue, I think it is "what" it is spent on because I think he is upset I am spending it on something I can do on my own trainer in the spare room...BUT, I don't get the same motivation and/or "high" sorta speak as I do when I go to these classes and really push myself (I lack self-discipline).

He has himself decided not to join the gym and do weights in order to save money but on the other hand would not blink twice at purchasing the fancy-smancy phone that is coming out (iPhone like)...Me? I went with the not-so-fancy-phone with lots of rebates and not so many bells n'whistles cause it doesn't mean that much! **but I did get a new mp3 player too. So, not so much the money but where it is going! (he is an uber techy geek!)

I have been to a therapist, he was all for it aside from the expense and I feel I can eliminate that if I had more cycling. I would love to go outside but having a hard time kicking a chest cold and the temp is just too low (missed a fun mtb ride last night in order not to refill my lungs with flem ew!)

So, I think I will readjust a few things spending-wise, reinforce the idea of how good this will be for my mental health, and go to the classes. We do give ourselves an allowance that will almost cover the expenses...so I will budget my little wallet more and hopefully not have to dip into the shared money.

When all is over and I am happy and not trying to sleep in every morning he will not regret me going!

by the way...it is $200 for about 16 classes (rounding out a bit) I am also getting a discount through a team I ride with so that helps too...I can show him the REAL cost compared to MY cost!!! hehe