i do think that makes it all the worse (if there can really be a "worse" in a situation like this) i'm sure the 2 families (his and hers) thought if they were going to get a call... it would be the chaplain's visiting them for the wife...

and for the wife to have to be told that while over there.... it's not even like she got to kiss him goodbye on his way out the door that morning....

devasting to happen at all.... but just seems even more so in a case like this.....

i'm still galled by the whole 4 years thing.......