glad you like the handlebars, Oakleaf .

I think there is a fair amount of individual variation in what is comfortable and sustainable for different people. Most of the time, I ride with my hips tilted farther forward than most people would suggest is optimal -- there's some weight on my sit bones, but probably more on the ischium (as Andrea's diagram shows). This is comfortable for me. None of the *men* who have fitted me have noticed it at all, as far as I know, mostly because it does result in a very flat back which seems to be more what they notice rather than your hip position per se. It's only in the past year (I've been riding for three now) that I've learned how to ride no-hands for any distance, and it does require consciously pulling my tailbone under. At any rate, this riding position is what feels natural to me, and I've found a saddle that accomodates it.

It does sound to me like the issues you are having may be more complicated than just your saddle, though. If you are feeling like your weight isn't comfortably balanced on the bike, it may be a sign that you need adjustments to reach or setback.